I agree totally with Mr Kogbara that you should be able to love another child as your own. All children are ours to care for. And for a country like Nigeria that boast a very large Christian community, it shows with the attitude described here that they are not really adhering to the Christian principles. For the Lord Jesus has said.."Love your neighbor as yourself"... and when we are unable to love a child as our own and not even as ourselves, we fail this commandment.

The ability to love is endowed on each Human being and it is up to him or her to exercise it to the maximum. There is no end to love and love is not conditional. The examples Mr Kogbara has shown here of how we are, shows that we do love conditionally......

Inherent in all this is also the reason why we do not progress as we should, because the fundamental part of our lives is really not in accordance to the will of the Almighty. We can be as Churchy as want, but there is still a lot of work to be done on ourselves and also on our society.... Blood is thicker than water only when the person eats well and cares for his or her body properly, if not it is as thin as water and sometimes even detrimental to the health of the person.... so let us not quote in ignorance, but strive to obery the command of the Lord Jesus... Love your neighbour as yourself....

I believe that everything depends on the circumstances and individuality. if you are capable of unconditional love, then loving a someone child would not even be an issue. i find it difficult to believe that a woman in particular will look at a new born baby and a surge of instant love will not flow from her heart. the fact that there is even a debate on the issue show the reason we have most of the problems we have now in Nigeria. we should stop attaching condition to our love for each other. God loves us unconditionally and it would be in everybody's best interest to emulate this. thanks.